Monday, July 16, 2012


Frequently I remind myself as I remind others, that we have a responsibility to take these youngsters under our wings, to help them realize that they do have intellectual talents.
– Ben Carson

All of us need to have someone say to us, “You can do it. You can achieve.” Words like these empowering us about the important and valuable laws of successful living, the power of positive thinking. I remember in my childhood I always fall back on my parents when the going becomes tough. Luckily enough my parents were both still alive. My parents provide me with love, comfort, encouragement and protection against the impact of the outer world. On approaching adulthood children must struggle to become responsible, self-reliant and to find solutions to their daily problems. The parents may only shield them, guide them and caution them against repeating mistakes.
Teenagers want to be independent. Parents must train their children in facing life's challenges by themselves. For example, it’s very rewarding and satisfying for a teenager to make use of public transport. They are thus enabled to learn, and to overcome difficulties on their way to and from school, instead of being picked up and dropped every day. Parents also need to encourage their teenage children in their work, challenging them to do a better job next time. For example, I love the way how Sonia Carson was encouraging her son Ben Carson, author of Think Big, and The Big Picture, during his childhood: “Ben, you are a smart boy. I want to see you using that smartness,” “Ben, you become whatever you want to be in this life if you are willing to work at it.”
Children's ability to act correctly and wisely in the face of newly acquired responsibility and freedom does not come to them ready-made. Their growing abilities emerge as a result of childhood experiences. They have learnt by doing, watching and practicing. They also learn a lot about life from books, TV and films. Their religious formation and doctrine also exert greater influence in helping them develop their personal code and establish a frame of reference for taking decisions.
All children, regardless of their age, pick parents as their number one role model. It is natural for a child to imitate and assume the attitude and the ways of the parents later in life. Parents with a positive approach towards life automatically transmit confidence and assurance to their children. Parents who pass to their children negative attitude towards life instill in them fear of failure and unwillingness to spend their energies in worthwhile endeavors.
What can parents learn from this? Recognize your place as a significant role model in both healthy and unhealthy habits. It is your responsibility to encourage your children to aim higher than where their friends aim. Parents must patiently point out to them the advantages of the way of life they stand for.
The urge to imitate is a means for children to progress towards maturity. Children must pick a hero with good qualities. The parents are the first heroes children imitate, followed by the older children in the family. It is the parents' responsibility, with patience and loving kindness to guide them in selecting heroes. Children frequently develop a 'crush' on someone who is several years older and unavailable but whom they see as important in their lives. Such a person may be either a valuable role model or an unfortunate one. Parents should not condemn someone the children admire, for if they do the children will resent the parents' intrusion into their private. Parents must take a positive approach: express approval for characters they feel worthy of their children's imitation.
A family where there is free discussion and frankness among brothers and sisters will give the child a fairly good idea of what to give and what to take. Children must learn to cooperate. They should understand by now that they owe respect to their elders, particularly to those in authority like teachers, older members and friends of the family. They also learn that games go more smoothly when everybody plays according to the rules and obey the team captain. Parents need to help their children understand more about ethics in personally relating with people. Children have to learn to be cooperative even at the risk of disappointment. Parents should not humiliate or discourage children if they fail to do something right.

I have been concerned by the lack of financial educational our children receive in school. Since our schools do not teach people what the rich know, it is important to teach our kids about money for their future financial success. Where can you find a program that would help you to educate your children on financial matters? If you want your children to have a financially secure future and utilizing the power of positive thinking efficiently I encourage you to visit Rich Dad and learn more

Have a great day.

With your success in mind,

Robert Malugu

About the Author
Robert Malugu is the founder and editor of Malugu Robert - The Positive Thinking Site. Learn more about him here and connect with him on Twitter, at Facebook, Google+, and LinkedIn.

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